It's been a busy week but thanks for stopping by to talk some more about The Devil of Whiskey Row by Renee Rose.
While looking back through the book for some chat topics, I came across this passage from Jake's point of view.
Spanking was not overly painful, but it was humbling for the recipient. For the disciplinarian, it was an act of dominance, a declaration of power.
For me, one of the trickiest parts of writing a spanking story----humbling without humiliating.
I found this definition of humiliate: to reduce to a lower position in one's own eyes or others' eyes
And here are a couple definitions of humble: 1 not proud or haughty : not arrogant or assertive
: reflecting, expressing, or offered in a spirit of deference or submission
I had never looked at the definitions of the two words. I guess I sort of thought that humiliation was one of those "I'll know it when I see it" things. And I still think that is true. We had a discussion a few weeks ago about a scene where the woman was made to crawl to the man. Some people thought it was hot, others thought it crossed a line. There is also the distinction of what you might like to read about vs. what you'd be willing to do in real life.
So, this isn't exactly about the book, though feel free to chime in about the book too, but what are your thoughts on humble vs. humiliate? What are some things that cross the line for you?